Week 21 MKE Crazy week but I finally took back my control….

This was tough week as things came to ahead with my sons behaviour and attitude about getting up for school at my house.

He refused to get up and go to school on the Friday and I was faced with his verbal abuse and anger and his violent temper that so often comes about when he does not like the way things are going.

Yes he has the brain tumour and the hormones out of balance and things can be challenging for him but it is evident that this condition is improving and this can not be relied upon anymore to blame this condition for shitty disrespectful behaviour in my home.

He does not display this in his dads home as he is such an angel for him all the time no matter what he is told to do or what is said, for me and my husband it is the exact opposite and I have been putting up with it for far too long, with no help from his dad but I have always found help through the means of a psychologist, mentor at school, anything to help him regulate his emotions but before Christmas he refused to return to the Psychologist that was getting good results working with him.

To cut a really long story short his dad and I had a meeting about his behaviour at school and my house and he was given a stern talking to about messing up his life etc. My ex has recently done a men’s behavioural program as he messed up in the past and had been a angry, violent partner I his relationships and not treated women well, he has recognised this and it is great to see a transformation that has taken place for his. I think he is ready to deal with our son and after a year of telling him about our sons behaviour and asking for help, he is finally ready to step up and help and support me.

We are on the same page, he is agreeable in getting our son the help he needs, we are searching for a life skills, confidence building programs for him and anger management for youth. We have made phone calls together and have the wheels in motion getting out son the help in every way that he needs. It is such a huge relief and now I feel in control and my son had been disempowered by my ex and I teaming and on the same page. Our son did a great job keeping us apart all this time, never wanting me to speak to his dad, intimidating me and the guilt and manipulation worked for a long time but I have t thank the Master Keys for empowering me and after all these week I was ready to step up and tell his dad and ask for the help again and take back the control.

I am super proud of myself and his dad for the changes we have made and the work we have done on ourselves to be better and stronger parents and now working together to give the best life to our son, who needs the emotional support and love and positivity.

We love him very much and we only want what is best for him and I know his dad can see he is making some of the same mistakes he made when he was a teen, he does not want to see him turn out like him and go down the wrong path.

I commend him for recognising it, admitting it now at 46 and steering our son in a positive direction, this is all I have ever wanted and what I have needed.

It is all in the timing and he is ready to work with me and this is a miracle in my book.

Thank you God

Blessings

Lana xo